Today I am going to blow your mind, obviously in the best possible way. I don’t mean that negatively, but it is my intention that after you listen to this episode, you are going to experience an enormous amount of relief about yourself, about your power as a Manifestor, and you’re going to finally see how truly powerful you really are and how you actually get to have every single thing you want right now, right now, in this moment.
Big Fat Lie: If you’re not happy, don’t feel good or high-vibe you will never manifest what you want
If you don’t feel positive emotions, if you aren’t always in an elevated emotional state, if you’re not high vibe, if you’re not happy, if you don’t feel good, most of the time you will never manifest what you want.
I’m sure you have heard that kind of message somewhere out there by people who are teaching manifestation, and I’m here to tell you that is absolute nonsense. It’s not true. It’s not true at all. Maybe this is what teachers truly believed, maybe that’s how they understood the information that they were reading from much, much older manifestation teachers. But the truth is how you feel has absolutely nothing to do with what you are manifesting.
Feeling negative or desperate or angry is not wrong or bad. It actually means nothing. It has no meaning. I mean, of course, we want to have a life that we love, where we feel good and where we’re essentially fulfilled and whole, and we want to feel truly worthy and have self-love and have all those beautiful experiences that we want to have, being the best version of ourselves. But I really want you to understand that none of that is required to manifest what you want. They’re separate things, complimentary things, but they’re separate things.
The truth is, you can feel unhappy, unworthy, lost, depressed, unconfident, lonely, desperate, jaded, needy, and you can still see yourself as someone who makes manifests and receives what they want.
You could literally be a terrible person. You could literally be an arrogant, self-serving, vindictive asshole and still be rich or still have what you want, still get it all, still be favored. You can also be an absolute sweetheart, selfless, kind, giving, loving, and never get a thing that you want, because it’s not about how you feel or even who you are. It is about the state in which you inhabit and the way in which you see yourself.
The thing that concerns me the most about this very outdated and very wrong piece of advice is that it can make someone feel like, no matter what they do, they’re never going to get it. They’re never going to do enough or be enough or have enough of what they need to have in order to get what they want, that they’re going to create this endless pattern of highs and lows, where they spend years chasing the high, thinking that if they just get there, if they just stay there they can stay there for 24 hours a day they’ll finally get it all, they’ll finally manifest what they want, they’ll finally be rich, happy, successful in love, be an amazing person, an amazing mother, daughter, whatever, whatever it is. Then they’ll finally get it all. But this is such a lie. It’s a lie. It’s a lie.
You can feel like shit 99% of the time and get it all anyway.
There is nothing to fix. There is nothing about you you need to fix in order to get what you want. You can have it now. You can decide that you get to have it now. There’s no path that you need to carve out. There is no bridge you need to try and cross. There’s nothing to speed up to. There’s no journey you need to go on. There’s nothing you need to do. You don’t have to earn, you don’t have to prove, you don’t have to try to achieve. Everything you want is right here. Your choice has to be to give it to yourself now, flaws and all.
It is literally my mission to help people understand that they do not have to try and achieve and maintain the most unrealistic and possible version of perfection and happiness to get and have what they want. This really is just another version of the belief of if I don’t behave or I’m not obedient, or I’m not a good girl, then Santa or God or family or society won’t love and accept me.
I once heard a coach say that if you’re desperate or needy, you’re repel money, and I remember thinking what a load of horseshit. You can be desperate, yes. You can feel needy absolutely but you don’t always repel money.
It depends on your self-concept and how you see yourself.
Now, based on how we have learned about manifestation and what we’ve been taught, we’re naturally going to think that if we feel negative feelings, we’re not going to get what we want. It’s actually an assumption that’s been drilled into us by the manifestation industry. I don’t know if it was intentional, but it made us think that unless we do this, we’re not going to have this. But you can feel desperate or needy. You can feel negative emotions and decide that that doesn’t mean anything about what you attract. That doesn’t mean anything about what you’re manifesting. It doesn’t mean anything at all. It doesn’t affect what you manifest.
This is why I created the affirmation no matter how I feel or what I do or what it looks like, I still get to have everything I want. No matter how I feel, I still get to have a fucktart of money, no matter how I feel I get to manifest the life of my dreams, no matter how I feel my business is a motherfucking success. No matter how I feel I get it all, and I really want you to understand that. I want you to use this affirmation as much as possible, because your feelings do not affect what you manifest. Your assumptions do, your self-concept does, the state does. None of those are emotional things. It is a way in which you perceive right. You perceive yourself as having what you want, because imagination is the only reality.
Imagination is the only reality
What I mean about that is your circumstances, whatever is happening in your life right now, no matter how grim, how terrifying, how painful, how sad, how potentially pathetic it all is, it does not matter. It doesn’t affect anything unless you decide it does, unless you assign the meaning that it does. Imagine you receive an unexpected bill and you don’t have the money for it, or the person you’re dating tells you that they’re no longer interested in pursuing a relationship with you, or that gorgeous pair of heels you wanted to buy for a wedding sold out. Think about it.
What actually happened?
For the bill? All you did was receive an email or a letter with some words and numbers on it.
For the breakup? Someone spoke several sentences to you.
For the shoes? the size you wanted on the website was grayed out with a sold out message above it.
All of those things were inanimate until you assigned meaning to them. And how did you assign meaning to them? By filtering the experience through your imagination, through your consciousness.
The only reality that is ever happening is through your imagination, because that’s the only way you can perceive what’s going on and that’s amazing. What a massive breakthrough, what a massive realization. When you truly understand, imagination is the only reality. It’s the only way in which you experience your life, it serves you in so many ways.
But for the things you’re making too much meaning of in a way that works against you, don’t you think it’s better to change the meaning to something that serves you and works in favor of yourself? Like not believing that you need to be happy and high vibe all the time to get what you want.
Maybe you have created a filter right now, a self-concept in which you see yourself as someone who can’t manifest what they want because they don’t feel good all the time, or they don’t feel worthy, or they haven’t tapped into their intuition, or they haven’t gone through a dark night of the soul, or they haven’t uncovered and rid themselves of all their blockages. If you just decided right now that none of that mattered and none of that meant anything about your ability to manifest what you want right now, that you didn’t need to fix those things or achieve those things or get rid of those things in order to get what you want, what would that mean?
That would mean you could have it right now, wouldn’t it? That would mean you get to have it all right now. There’s nothing actually in your way, just the illusion that there is.
Your circumstances don’t matter. It doesn’t matter what you did or didn’t do. It doesn’t matter where you are and what you’re doing or not doing. It doesn’t matter what your story is or what your secrets are. None of these things have any meaning. Only the meaning that you give to it matters. Only your assumption about it matters, and you control that. You have 100% control over that, because you’re the one dictating how you perceive anything through that imagination of yours.
You could be going through a very heartbreaking divorce and still see yourself as a super magnet for wealth and abundance. You could be experiencing the scariest health conditions and still see yourself with a wildly successful business. It’s a game of what you persist in follows. It’s not a game of how you are feeling at every single moment, and tallying that up at the end of the day determines whether you get to have what you want. It’s not that sadistic. It’s very simple.
Think about the actual physical world right now and what’s happening in it. There are rich and wealthy people who are deeply unhappy, filled with insecurity, have rocky marriages, consumed with addiction, and they still make a fuck ton of money. Look at the majority of the celebrities out there.
There are people in the most incredible relationships, incredible marriages. Everybody uses them as an example and they have massive self-worth issues. They’re deeply codependent. They’re insecure. One does not equal the other. It’s your self-concept about it all that does so.
Begin to build this self-concept..
With that, there is a concept I don’t think you’ve really let yourself explore and I want you to let this be your permission slip for you to go all on this concept and that is to give it all to yourself now.
Give yourself everything you want now, to give yourself permission to have it now and the exact state, place, condition, emotions that you’re experiencing right now. Give yourself permission to have it all while you still feel unworthy, while you’re still going through personal stuff, while you’re still unhappy and finding your way, while you’re feeling terrible, while whatever you perceive is negatively happening right now or that you are right now. Give it to yourself now. Give yourself permission to have it now.
Income: If you see yourself as broke right now and lost in your business and unconfident in your work and that is the reason why you’re not manifesting money or success or whatever it is you want flip it to. You feel broke, you feel lost, you feel unconfident and you’re still a money magnet. You still make a ton of money, you still get to have a ton of money.
Relationship: If you are going through a really rough patch in your relationship right now there’s a lot of anxiety, it’s really rocky, you’re not sure if you’re going to stay together and you feel like that because you feel that way, that means that’s exactly what’s going to manifest in your reality. Change that to: I’m feeling really unconfident, really anxious, really let. My relationship is going to end and yet I still get to have the relationship I want. This gets to turn around. This gets to be exactly what I want. In fact, we’re better than ever. It made us stronger.
Friendship: If you’re feeling lonely and you want to manifest friends, but you feel like because you feel lonely and because you’re needing friends or wanting friends, that means that you won’t manifest them, change it to. I feel like I want friends, I feel like I need friends, but I’m going to see myself with friends and get the friends anyway.
Give yourself permission to give it all to yourself now, as you are flaws and all. Let yourself off the hook. Give yourself grace. Stop making yourself have to earn it. There’s nothing to earn. Give it to yourself now.
I hope I’ve made sense, because it is absolute bullshit that you need to feel good in order to get what you want. It’s how you see yourself. So see yourself as someone who always wins, despite the circumstances. See yourself as someone who always gets what they want, while having a very human experience. See yourself as someone who’s always on your side, because when you do that, when you truly let yourself have it all now and not having to become anything else in order to get it. That’s when you truly see your power. That’s when you truly manifest everything you want, no matter what the fuck is happening in your life right now.
So, in saying that, I decided to make a FREE workbook for you for this episode, to help you work through this experience of feeling like you have to be in some kind of elevated position in your emotions and in your life in order to have what you want.
It is called the Set Yourself Free workbook and I would love for you to go and download it. It is in my free abundance vault, where you get 15 more free resources for manifestation and money mindset. Go and download that now. It might be the most important resource that’s in that vault right now.
To conclude:
If you remember anything that I ever teach, I hope this is one of the main ones. I hope that you really see that there is nothing to fix about you. You are.. I don’t even wanna say good enough right now, because it’s not even about being good enough. You are ready now. You get to have it now. Worthiness, emotions, position in life, condition of body doesn’t fucking matter. You get to have it now. Give it to yourself. I give you permission. Why not give yourself permission too?
